Does my child need my consent for therapy?

Your child is starting something new, and that takes courage. Meeting a counsellor, playing and exploring big feelings in a safe space is a brave step for a young child.

Counselling, also called therapy, for a child aged 12 and under begins with one parent's consent. Either parent can give it, unless a court order says otherwise. Both parents keep parental responsibility after separation, and both can play a part in supporting their child.

At a glance

Do both parents need to consent to counselling?

No. One parent's consent is enough.

• Parental responsibility: Every parent has parental responsibility for a child under 18, and separating or divorcing doesn't remove it.
• One consent: Counselling can begin with the agreement of either parent, unless a court order requires something different.
• Talking together: The law encourages parents to discuss major decisions about their child, such as health. It's only a legal requirement when a court order sets out joint decision-making.

What if there are court orders or a parenting plan?

Orders can change how decisions about your child are made, so we ask to see them before the first session.

• What to send: Any parenting orders or parenting plan that apply to your child.
• Send the full copy: A summary can miss important detail. Plans and orders also work differently, so we need the complete documents.

What does counselling look like for my child?

• Parents first: For children aged 12 and under, the first session is with the parent or parents. This helps the counsellor understand your child's world before they meet.
• Play-based: Younger children often find it easier to show how they feel through play than through words. Sessions are designed around that.
• At their pace: Your child is given time to settle in, build trust and take part in their own way.

What if my child doesn't want to go?

That's okay. Feeling unsure about something new is natural.

If your child isn't ready to attend, the appointment is used as a parent support session. You can work with the counsellor on ways to support your child at home, so progress continues while your child builds confidence.

How do I explain counselling to my child?

A simple, honest explanation helps your child feel safe and in control.

• Keep it simple: Describe counselling as a place to play, talk and learn about feelings with someone whose job is to help children.
• Make it clear they're not in trouble: Lots of children see a counsellor, and going is a positive choice for the whole family.
• Invite their questions: Let them ask anything, and be honest if you don't know the answer.
• Respect their feelings: If they're nervous, acknowledge it. Their feelings are welcome in counselling too.

Can I stop my child's counselling?

If you disagree with counselling, your objection on its own doesn't override the other parent's consent, unless a court order gives you that authority.

• Talk it through: You're welcome to contact us and share your concerns.
• Legal options: A family lawyer can advise you. Parents who can't agree can apply to the Family Court of Western Australia for parenting orders.
• The court's focus: Decisions are made in your child's best interests, and your child's views are taken into account.

How is my child's privacy protected?

Children open up when they feel safe, so their sessions are treated as their own space.

• Session content: What your child shares isn't passed on to either parent without their consent.
• When a child can't yet consent: The counsellor uses clinical judgement, in consultation with parents, always guided by your child's best interests.
• Contacting the other parent: We only reach out to the other parent if your child agrees.
• Limits: When someone's safety is at risk, or the law requires it, only the information needed to keep everyone safe is shared, with your child's identified safe person and the appropriate authorities under mandatory reporting guidelines.

Can I share my concerns with the counsellor?

Yes. Your knowledge of your child is valuable.

• Get in touch: Let us know about anything you think could help, such as changes at home, at school or in sleep.
• Privacy still applies: We'll listen to your concerns, but we won't pass on what your child says in session.

Can I see my child's counselling records?

Records are released through a subpoena. If you need them for a legal matter, a family lawyer can explain the process.

How can I support my child?

• Notice their courage: Tell your child you're proud of them for trying something new.
• Keep adult concerns with adults: Your child doesn't need to hear about disagreements over their counselling.
• Stay curious, not questioning: After a session, a gentle "How are you feeling?" is enough. Let them share if they want to.
• Celebrate small steps: Settling in, trying a new strategy or naming a feeling are all wins worth noticing.

This page is general information only and isn't legal advice. For advice about your situation, speak with a family lawyer.